It sounds like LW already spent years being deeply unhappy in a situation their partner was fine with. Of course their partner now wants to maintain the status quo--they've *always* wanted to maintain the status quo. And somehow, regardless of whose doing it was, the dynamic in their relationship was that Partner got to have what they wanted while LW didn't.
LW has already made a huge step toward taking charge of their own happiness by breaking up. The voice telling them that Partner is making "a very convincing case" for living together is the same one that kept them in an unhappy relationship for years.
I think a country song chorus could apply to this situation--"All my exes live in Texas. That's why I hang my hat in Tennessee", (by George Strait). The best thing to do is usually the hardest, but I have confidence that TWR can make the necessary changes and move forward in a positive and healthy new life. That's my prayer for TWR.
This is such good advice. I'm so glad I moved out after ending my previous relationship. It helped me to focus on the future and my happiness. Thank you, Papi!
It sounds like LW already spent years being deeply unhappy in a situation their partner was fine with. Of course their partner now wants to maintain the status quo--they've *always* wanted to maintain the status quo. And somehow, regardless of whose doing it was, the dynamic in their relationship was that Partner got to have what they wanted while LW didn't.
LW has already made a huge step toward taking charge of their own happiness by breaking up. The voice telling them that Partner is making "a very convincing case" for living together is the same one that kept them in an unhappy relationship for years.
I think a country song chorus could apply to this situation--"All my exes live in Texas. That's why I hang my hat in Tennessee", (by George Strait). The best thing to do is usually the hardest, but I have confidence that TWR can make the necessary changes and move forward in a positive and healthy new life. That's my prayer for TWR.
This is such good advice. I'm so glad I moved out after ending my previous relationship. It helped me to focus on the future and my happiness. Thank you, Papi!