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I feel this! I was in an over 4 year relationship, lived together three of them. He started to talk about marriage and it made me start thinking about if this was what I wanted for life. There nothing bad about the relationship, I just knew it didn't feel right for me. But when I wanted to end it, his sibling died tragically. So no way I could end it and I knew he was hurting. Then it was the holidays, then it was Valentine's Day, then it was his birthday. I put it off 8 months because I never thought it was the right time but I was finished. And I felt worse because I knew and he thought everything was fine. So when I did finally end it three weeks after his birthday it was painful. I didn't want to hurt him but I couldn't stay in the relationship. It wasn't fair to either of us. I wish you all the luck. Just know the timing will never be right to possibly hurt someone you care deeply about and also at the same time bring yourself pain in doing so.

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Nobody asked me, Heartbreaker, but I've been in a very similar situation. I sought to avoid breaking up with my partner to protect his feelings -- but ultimately I came to realize that while being broken up with may hurt, it would hurt him a lot more to continue being in a relationship with someone who wasn't truly invested in it anymore.

It was a good relationship but it wasn't great - and I think you (and I, and everyone) deserve great. I hope you're well, HB, and know I'm thinking about you during this time.

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Is it appropriate to break up over FaceTime? My bf and I live 6 hours apart and I don’t want to make that drive after a hard breakup.

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