each time ive read this today (it’s been several) a singular hot tear has rolled down my cheek by the time i reach the end. “you have a life to live, after all.”
I really, really needed to read this today. I’ve been really hurting over the last two months behind a relationship my brain was determined to paint rosily to cover the pain that was there. Thank you for... reminding me about both sides.
This came at the perfect time. Life has been hard, being unemployed and having to move back into my dads house, and my parents getting divorced. I keep thinking back to my most recent relationship that wasn't even a relationship but more of a passionate fling. My mind has been going back to all the good parts, wishing things could have gone differently. But its good to be reminded that there was a lot more going on and it needed to come to an end. Thank you
So glad I read this.. I'm a young lgbt youth whose first romantic relationship was in early high school with my best friend. It was mostly a long-distance relationship since I moved due to unfortunate reasons and I spent those two years daydreaming about her and all the things we could do when I returned. So I was used to thinking about her all the time, when I was happy and when I was depressed. She broke up with me months ago and those habits sometimes haunt me. We got to speak and have closure but the wound still stings. Probably because I keep picking at it. Thanks for giving me a new perspective.
I needed this today. I spent the weekend sobbing about a relationship I ended (for good reasons) months ago and trying to get my ex to take me back (she didn’t, which is for the best). I think particularly during the pandemic it’s hard to remember that just because things were better before doesn’t mean everything from the before time was good... Thank you so much for writing this.
Thank you, this extremely on time for me. Living with chronic illness can increase my desire for escape and romanticizing the past. I can't be young again, but I can be present now. Like you said, there is much that I was glad to escape back then!
each time ive read this today (it’s been several) a singular hot tear has rolled down my cheek by the time i reach the end. “you have a life to live, after all.”
I really, really needed to read this today. I’ve been really hurting over the last two months behind a relationship my brain was determined to paint rosily to cover the pain that was there. Thank you for... reminding me about both sides.
This came at the perfect time. Life has been hard, being unemployed and having to move back into my dads house, and my parents getting divorced. I keep thinking back to my most recent relationship that wasn't even a relationship but more of a passionate fling. My mind has been going back to all the good parts, wishing things could have gone differently. But its good to be reminded that there was a lot more going on and it needed to come to an end. Thank you
this was so beautifully written and everything I needed to hear <3 thank you
"Nostalgia is a fickle friend. So often, it’s fantasy masquerading as historical record." wowowow that really hit me though
go off. I loved every word of this. thanks
So glad I read this.. I'm a young lgbt youth whose first romantic relationship was in early high school with my best friend. It was mostly a long-distance relationship since I moved due to unfortunate reasons and I spent those two years daydreaming about her and all the things we could do when I returned. So I was used to thinking about her all the time, when I was happy and when I was depressed. She broke up with me months ago and those habits sometimes haunt me. We got to speak and have closure but the wound still stings. Probably because I keep picking at it. Thanks for giving me a new perspective.
I needed this today. I spent the weekend sobbing about a relationship I ended (for good reasons) months ago and trying to get my ex to take me back (she didn’t, which is for the best). I think particularly during the pandemic it’s hard to remember that just because things were better before doesn’t mean everything from the before time was good... Thank you so much for writing this.
Thank you, this extremely on time for me. Living with chronic illness can increase my desire for escape and romanticizing the past. I can't be young again, but I can be present now. Like you said, there is much that I was glad to escape back then!