I went through a rough friend breakup in 2019 and sometimes I still feel the pangs of guilt, anger, and hurt. Reading this was immensely helpful. Thank you 💜
"Loss is how life begets itself." Got to write that one down somewhere I can see it often.
I went through a painful friend breakup a few years ago, with similar dynamics to what the writer described. When I found myself ruminating over it, I learned to ask myself, "Do I actually miss this person (NO), or am I hooked because I feel shame about how I let this unhealthy situation continue so long (YES)?" You can be angry that the person hurt you, and simultaneously try to forgive yourself and them, for both acting out of a wounded place, doing the best you could at the time.
Oh! Papi, if I could, I would give you such a tight hug after reading your response! Forgiveness is such a healer. No, it doesn’t mean we have to let the one who hurt us back into our lives, but it does allow for us to acknowledge that others are broken just like us. We can learn to leave the past in the past and recognize that, we “are doing a new thing”. Colossians 3:13 and Isaiah 43:18-20. HUGS, everyone!
tchotchke...I actually own some of those items you described, Papi and I am an abuelita too. So funny! Papi, a creative person such as yourself needs all of those experiences that you described as wasted time in order to create the things that you do create. That's the purpose of those times. HUGS!
I went through a rough friend breakup in 2019 and sometimes I still feel the pangs of guilt, anger, and hurt. Reading this was immensely helpful. Thank you 💜
"Loss is how life begets itself." Got to write that one down somewhere I can see it often.
I went through a painful friend breakup a few years ago, with similar dynamics to what the writer described. When I found myself ruminating over it, I learned to ask myself, "Do I actually miss this person (NO), or am I hooked because I feel shame about how I let this unhealthy situation continue so long (YES)?" You can be angry that the person hurt you, and simultaneously try to forgive yourself and them, for both acting out of a wounded place, doing the best you could at the time.
This is absolutely perfect and strikes every chord -- thank you
Somehow, you always seem to address the exact feeling I'm struggling with at that time. Thank you.
"How strange it is, after all that, we are strangers again?"
-Lang Leav
Oh! Papi, if I could, I would give you such a tight hug after reading your response! Forgiveness is such a healer. No, it doesn’t mean we have to let the one who hurt us back into our lives, but it does allow for us to acknowledge that others are broken just like us. We can learn to leave the past in the past and recognize that, we “are doing a new thing”. Colossians 3:13 and Isaiah 43:18-20. HUGS, everyone!
Thank you!
tchotchke...I actually own some of those items you described, Papi and I am an abuelita too. So funny! Papi, a creative person such as yourself needs all of those experiences that you described as wasted time in order to create the things that you do create. That's the purpose of those times. HUGS!