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Nov 27, 2023·edited Nov 27, 2023

Sometimes a crush develops in stressful periods of your life to distract your mind and keep you entertained. (See also: joining a fandom or buying supplies for a new hobby.) A lot of new grad students suddenly fall face-first into crushes that give them something else to agonize about. That doesn't make it not-real, but it might be a helpful perspective to take as you make the effort to stop obsessing over crumbs. Because yeah, don't put up with crumbs, there's toast out there.

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Papi, I’m hoping he’s just not that into CC because if he is into CC and he shows it the way he’s been acting, then it’s bad, bad for CC in the long run, even if he does date her, because it doesn’t sound like she’d be receiving the affection she needs in a relationship. I say, she should stop guessing and move on. Even if she ignores him which makes him come around, that’s not the same as someone being jazzed about her now and for the long run. No need to set herself up for possibly being in a heartbroken fetal position when the 1L final exams roll around. That’s my theory of the case. I stipulate that I may be wrong. Thank you, Your Honor. I pass the witness.

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I feel like she should take the reluctance he actually expressed(?) as a no, actually. Like if he’s not talking to her it could be bc he doesn’t enjoy it / it’s weird for him.

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