I found that when I tried to avoid the music I used to listen to at the worst points in my life, I would just get bodyslammed back to those worst times any time I heard those songs. Instead I actively try to play them to give myself a way to bring them forward into the new parts of my life. Without being deliberate about it, I think I would have lost all of Taylor Swift's "Red", which would have been disastrous when Red Taylor's Version came out!
But I also have a deeper appreciation for the pain I went through, and the longer ago it was the less it bites and the more it reassures me to look back at it and see how I moved through it and came out the other side.
I love the story❤️. The heartache of the BF that was once brings to mind the many and I do mean many Loves of my past with certain songs.
Go e are the days since I'm happily Married to Gary, 5 years married and 5 years of being coupled. But when a song comes up (Gloria E) my first true love comes to mind and I still have that emotional feeling that come up... weird.
And sometimes I'll hear a song and " who was I dating at that time?" Long forgotten which is good but the best part, it's those beautiful men who shared a part of them with which has developed me into Latino Gay man that I am today and for that I am truly grateful.
What Papi explained is so true. I felt the same way yesterday and had to ask myself why I was wishing for the past which had so much more pain than the present. It's because I didn't like the pain I was in yesterday. There are songs I remember and the ex that they remind me of, but it doesn't hurt anymore. I find that I like the person that I was then and the way I felt then anyway.
I found that when I tried to avoid the music I used to listen to at the worst points in my life, I would just get bodyslammed back to those worst times any time I heard those songs. Instead I actively try to play them to give myself a way to bring them forward into the new parts of my life. Without being deliberate about it, I think I would have lost all of Taylor Swift's "Red", which would have been disastrous when Red Taylor's Version came out!
But I also have a deeper appreciation for the pain I went through, and the longer ago it was the less it bites and the more it reassures me to look back at it and see how I moved through it and came out the other side.
I love the story❤️. The heartache of the BF that was once brings to mind the many and I do mean many Loves of my past with certain songs.
Go e are the days since I'm happily Married to Gary, 5 years married and 5 years of being coupled. But when a song comes up (Gloria E) my first true love comes to mind and I still have that emotional feeling that come up... weird.
And sometimes I'll hear a song and " who was I dating at that time?" Long forgotten which is good but the best part, it's those beautiful men who shared a part of them with which has developed me into Latino Gay man that I am today and for that I am truly grateful.
Con Amor y abrazos
David en San Francisco
What Papi explained is so true. I felt the same way yesterday and had to ask myself why I was wishing for the past which had so much more pain than the present. It's because I didn't like the pain I was in yesterday. There are songs I remember and the ex that they remind me of, but it doesn't hurt anymore. I find that I like the person that I was then and the way I felt then anyway.