"Maybe I’m a cynic, but it seems to me that we are in an era of justification, where people aren’t so much interested in changing anything about themselves, but in explaining themselves. I’ve come to think of this as “validity culture,” which is chiefly interested in affirming that the things you were going to do anyway are fine, or even good."
You hit the nail on the head with this. I think that justification is also strongest in conversations with yourself - there are so many times where I catch myself explaining to myself that XYZ action is totally okay because ABC, because it offers an easy escape for my behaviour and it allows me to continue to resist actually pausing, reflecting, and investigating my motivations.
Papi, your ability to put into words what we so need to hear is a blessing. Even persons struggling with autism can learn to behave in appropriate positive ways in order to establish relationships and decrease harm to others because their lack of awareness. HUGS!
"Maybe I’m a cynic, but it seems to me that we are in an era of justification, where people aren’t so much interested in changing anything about themselves, but in explaining themselves. I’ve come to think of this as “validity culture,” which is chiefly interested in affirming that the things you were going to do anyway are fine, or even good."
You hit the nail on the head with this. I think that justification is also strongest in conversations with yourself - there are so many times where I catch myself explaining to myself that XYZ action is totally okay because ABC, because it offers an easy escape for my behaviour and it allows me to continue to resist actually pausing, reflecting, and investigating my motivations.
Papi, your ability to put into words what we so need to hear is a blessing. Even persons struggling with autism can learn to behave in appropriate positive ways in order to establish relationships and decrease harm to others because their lack of awareness. HUGS!