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Thank you - letter writer and Papi both - for putting your frustration and sadness out here for the rest of us. Not having a partner has felt like an unspeakable topic (because, of course, it must be because I am wrong somehow) and it has taken so much space in my life. This post is exactly what I needed and I can't thank you both enough.

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Aaand it’s one of the best advice column closures. So warm and generous. We don’t know! We can’t know. We make a practice out of gratitude and a feast of our gifts.

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Wow, I literally just got dumped and this feels like a balm. Thank you for writing this in such a caring, thoughtful way.

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Can't believe an advice column I randomly clicked on from 2 years ago would be exactly what I needed to hear right now...thank u king (and letter writing queen)

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After going through several rounds of fruitless online dating recently, this letter and response cuts me to the quick. Thank you for this piece!

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Perfect timing with this as the holidays start and most of us have to be in contact with family members we haven't heard from in a while and justify why we're single. The constant questioning can really make you self-conscious about why all of your other parts of your life aren't enough for your family members, or even for potential partners.

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Wow. What has attracted these cons?

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These comments should not have been allowed to stay up on this site.

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Bullshit con.

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OK.......(stepping slowly away.......)

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I really want to thank you alot for your help,am happy that my husband is back and everything is settled as planed. I will sure do recommend more friends to you. Thanks a lot.

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